Someone I train with in kobudō recently mentioned that they’re going to be teaching a self-defense class, and this made me think about the subject. Years ago I did occasionally teach self-defense classes, but it’s neither something I’ve done in a while nor have I given it much thought lately. However, it’s an important topic and deserves consideration.
As I train daily in a martial art, it might be a confusing when I say I hadn’t thought about self-defense lessons lately. “Martial arts” and “self-defense” are concepts tightly bound together in the minds of most. I’m not saying that I don’t think about the protection of myself and those around me- I do that all the time. What I am saying is that, while there are some shared features, practicing martial arts is a much different beast than learning self-defense for reasons I’ll elaborate below.
Before getting into the differences, let me talk about one critical similarity between martial arts and self-defense. In both, the most important and effective weapon, far and away, hands down, nolo contendere, is the brain and affiliated sensory organs. The further out you can recognize a threat, the more likely you are to survive, and the more numerous your options are for dealing with it. Most of us pack so much into our lives that it’s easy to move through life in a mental haze, thinking about the afternoon or tomorrow or what happens in three years when a child has to go off to college. If you go about your life in such a haze, you’re sacrificing several perimeters of protection.
Awareness not only allows you to see what’s coming, it also makes you a less appealing target. Criminals will always go for someone with his or her head down in a reverie over someone appearing alert. Note: I’m not saying you should become borderline paranoid. (That will actually make you tenser, and, thus, work at cross purposes – not to mention adversely impacting your quality of life.) Make a game of it. There’re many benefits of being aware beyond self-defense; you might just see an old college friend you haven’t talked to in years.
Let me say, despite having done it, I don’t believe I’m an ideal person to teach self-defense lessons because, as a 230+ pound 5’11″ man (not to mention a former cop with 20 years martial arts experience), I won’t necessarily inspire confidence in a 120 lb 5’4″ woman that she can make the techniques I am demonstrating work for her. That confidence is crucially important in teaching self-defense.
That brings us to:
Difference #1: The first difference between teaching self-defense and martial arts is that the techniques of self-defense must be so simple and easily learned that anyone can go home from the class confident that they can do it.
One might ask, “If you can devise such simple techniques, why would you teach more complex / challenging techniques that have to be practiced hundreds of times intensely (sometimes of the course of years) to be mastered.” Speaking with respect to combative martial arts that historically developed to win in battles, the reason for more complex or physically challenging techniques is that they’re valuable for developing the skills of defeating increasingly skilled opponents. (Outside the purview of this discussion, there are also martial arts that exist primarily for the purpose of either entertainment or sport that might have techniques that are either complex or require high levels of fitness because those techniques get more points in a tournament or a higher likelihood of a part in a kung fu flick.)
With respect to self-defense and dealing with skilled attackers there is bad and good news. The bad news is that the technique you learn in a self-defense class is probably not going to work against a highly skilled opponent. Take the self-defense mainstay (and for good reason), knee to testicles. A skilled attacker may blade himself (turn his hips so the groin is not exposed) to negate this, he will control the distancing so as to not loiter in a position where the technique can work, and, even if you manage to apply the knee strike, he’s probably been hit in the junk before and will keep fighting through it. If your objective is to be able to cope with highly skilled individuals, you must take a martial art and you must practice regularly. Periodic self-defense lessons will not do the trick.
Before you say, woe-is-me – self-defense lessons are a waste, here is the good news. Highly skilled attackers are: a.) rare, b.) don’t tend to go around attacking people at random. They’re often martial artists and / or soldiers. Martial artists tend to be polite and respectful because that is part of the training. Also, it’s because they know the secret of the circle of ass-kickery. The secret is that no matter who you are, no matter how tough you are, no matter how often you train, there is someone who – on any given Sunday – can kick your ass. If you are 200 pounds of lean muscle and you train for four hours every day, that person may just be a little 120 pound Asian dude who’s been training four hours a day for the last 50 years. (And the little Asian dude probably has a wife, so that’s where it becomes a circle of ass-kickery and not a pyramid.) Chances are good that the person who attacks you will be unskilled and not too bright.
A random attacker is also likely to be unsure of himself and to test the waters. That can work as an advantage. Testing of the waters can take many forms.
“didn’t we go to school together?”
“do you have a light?”
“can you spare some change?”
“do you see any jumper cables in my trunk?”
This is the time to be confident and shut things down before they become an attack. As with dogs, the louder the bark, the less likely they have bite. The stone cold killer is not going to give warning, and so you can rest assured that anyone who bothers to test the waters can be shut down if you are just willing to demonstrate your willingness to make a scene. Don’t be meek. Talk clearly and louder than he, and don’t be afraid to rapidly escalate into a real scene if they persist.
This may seem a little hostile or paranoid. After all, the guy asking for a light or change probably just wants a light or change? Probably so. But there’s a possibility, and there’re lots of examples of this in the police blotters, that while you’re rooting around in that purse, he’s going to clobber you, and drag you off for rape or murder. If you are so inclined: give at the office, give at the charity drive, give at the cash register at the supermarket, give to your heart’s content, but don’t hand a stranger money. If you can hand them money, they are way too close.
Difference #2: As a practitioner of a combative martial art, I train to end threats decisively. The techniques I practice are designed to completely and utterly incapacitate a person who presents a threat to life and limb. If I kick an opponent in the leg and he falls down, my training impels me to get on top of him: pinning him to the ground, choking him unconscious, or punching him in the base of the skull until he stops moving. If I can still move, I’m taught to keep trying to make sure that the attacker can’t.
In teaching self-defense, the objective of the techniques should be to allow the victim to flee. In a martial arts class, my advice to someone who knocked their training partner to the ground might be to straddle them and apply a choke. To a self-defense class audience, I would say, run like the wind. There is a risk involved, the attacker may come after you and be enraged when he does, or he may hurt someone else. However, given the lack of training, your chances are better if you try to get away and call the cops. If your objective is to be able to protect others, self-defense classes won’t do. You must take a martial art and train constantly.
This brings up two important lessons to be conveyed to the self-defense student about flight and/or fight. We all know you don’t fight over a wallet or a car. Even if you’re a skilled combatant, it’s not worth the risk.
However, there are a couple of redlines beyond which, if you can’t flee you, you have to fight at least until you are freed up to flee. a.) Never, ever – I’m serious about this - never go with an attacker. He wants to take you someplace because he doesn’t feel confident doing whatever he wants to do on the spot. Use that fact. Run, yell, run while yelling, fight, yell, fight while yelling, but don’t get in a car or be led away from the scene. b.) Never, ever – I’m serious about this - never let an attacker put you in a position that constrains your mobility.
“Get on your knees!”
“No.”
“Drop your pants around your ankles so you can’t run for help.”
“Hell No!”
“I’m just going to tie you up so I can make a getaway.”
“Absolutely, positively, NO!”
Same drill: They are doing this because they aren’t comfortable with your ability to flee or fight. Use that to bolster your confidence to do exactly one or both of those things.
Those are the lines in the sand. They want your car? Sure. They want your purse? Enjoy.
A note on weapons: Weapons (pepper spray, stun guns, guns, etc.) offer a great potential value for equalizing the tactical balance between attacker and defender. However, no weapon is a magic wand. You cannot drop a weapon in your purse, forget about it, and think it will have any – but a detrimental – effect on your health and safety. You must be able to place a hand on it in an instant. You must practice getting to it. If you carry a firearm, you must train with it. This does not just mean going to the range every year or so and shooting paper targets from a Weaver stance. It also means practicing weapon retention, drawing the firearm, and being able to shoot from close confines where a traditional stance (with arms extended) is vulnerable to being disarmed.
Some Additional Considerations For Self-Defense:
1.) If you’re robbed, toss and run. If you keep your bills together with a money clip, all the better (i.e. it’ll have weight and will carry further.) Do the same with car keys.
2.) Your attacker need not look like a scruffy Billy Bob Thornton, he may look like Brad Pitt.
3.) Know that you will get exhausted much more quickly in a fight or struggle than you might expect. While a higher fitness level can’t hurt, you might be the type to do Ironman Triathlons in your spare time and still find that 30 seconds into a fight you’re completely exhausted and ready to puke. This is because people tense up and breathe too shallowly when they’re in fear for their lives. Habitual practice of deep breathing under stressful conditions may be of some service (though not as good as sparring.)